I've moved the listening socket setup back to before the lifetime
preparations, so in particular we find out that we couldn't bind to
the socket _before_ we fork. The only part that really needed to come
after lifetime setup was the logging setup, so that's now a separate
function called later.
Also, the random exit(0)s in silly places like x11_closing have turned
into setting a time_to_die flag, so that all clean exits funnel back
to the end of main() which at least tries to tidy up a bit afterwards.
(Finally, fixed a small bug in testing the return value of waitpid(),
which only showed up once we didn't exit(0) after the first wait.
Ahem.)