Clean up downstream sockets when upstream loses its SSH connection.
If the real SSH connection goes away and we call sharestate_free with
downstreams still active, then that in turn calls share_connstate_free
on all those downstreams, freeing the things their sockets are using
as Plugs but not actually closing the sockets, so further data coming
in from downstream gives rise to a use-after-free bug.
(Thanks to Timothe Litt for a great deal of help debugging this.)