md-cluster/raid10: support add disk under grow mode

md-cluster/raid10: support add disk under grow mode

For clustered raid10 scenario, we need to let all the nodes
know about that a new disk is added to the array, and the
reshape caused by add new member just need to be happened in
one node, but other nodes should know about the change.

Since reshape means read data from somewhere (which is already
used by array) and write data to unused region. Obviously, it
is awful if one node is reading data from address while another
node is writing to the same address. Considering we have
implemented suspend writes in the resyncing area, so we can
just broadcast the reading address to other nodes to avoid the
trouble.

For master node, it would call reshape_request then update sb
during the reshape period. To avoid above trouble, we call
resync_info_update to send RESYNC message in reshape_request.

Then from slave node's view, it receives two type messages:
1. RESYNCING message
Slave node add the address (where master node reading data from)
to suspend list.

2. METADATA_UPDATED message
Once slave nodes know the reshaping is started in master node,
it is time to update reshape position and call start_reshape to
follow master node's step. After reshape is done, only reshape
position is need to be updated, so the majority task of reshaping
is happened on the master node.

Reviewed-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Guoqing Jiang <gqjiang@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Shaohua Li <shli@fb.com>