Clean up downstream sockets when upstream loses its SSH connection.

Clean up downstream sockets when upstream loses its SSH connection.

If the real SSH connection goes away and we call sharestate_free with
downstreams still active, then that in turn calls share_connstate_free
on all those downstreams, freeing the things their sockets are using
as Plugs but not actually closing the sockets, so further data coming
in from downstream gives rise to a use-after-free bug.

(Thanks to Timothe Litt for a great deal of help debugging this.)

(cherry picked from commit 0b2f283622603242d8bce295e42342649aebbb97)